Nigerian radio personality, television host and podcaster, Toke Makinwa discusses why, in contrast to her previous opinion, cheating in a marriage or relationship is no longer a deal breaker.
Toke Makinwa, who accused her ex-husband Maje Ayida of being a serial cheat, discussed her views on infidelity over time in a podcast that was published on Thursday.
She said that as she grew older, she realized that women can find it easier to cheat, and that self-control is often the main motivator for not doing so.
In her words;
“I think a lot of women need to reject the stigma. If I cheat, it’s okay for the man to do the same to me.
“I feel like I have gotten to a place in my life where you can’t shame the shameless. If I cheat tomorrow and you want to leave I will respect you. If you want to stay, don’t use it to taunt me because I have won the crown of a cheater.
“If I’m going to be very honest, cheating is no longer a deal breaker for me. It used to be; when I was younger, I would never have been able to say these. I would have said if he cheats, I’m putting him back in the street.
“As I grew older, I realized men cheat, women cheat. It’s easier for a woman to cheat, it’s self restraint that stops us. The reason why I’m not quick to put you out is I might be the first person to cheat on you. Forgive me as I have forgiven you.”
